tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-568654854152125392.post5287007200703570232..comments2023-06-17T06:09:18.933-07:00Comments on Alcoholics Life: Transitioning Your Life, Alcoholics RoutinePlus Size Sports Apparel Review Girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13289658839073619554noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-568654854152125392.post-88995299136064119592011-10-06T17:02:11.864-07:002011-10-06T17:02:11.864-07:00Thank you so much for your insight. I just broke u...Thank you so much for your insight. I just broke up with a guy who is an alcoholic. I was with him for a year. It was a roller coaster and of course, he blames our break up on me and my emotionalism. Usually he was an amiable drunk, especially with other people around. But fairly often he would become antagonistic and even verbally abusive. I tried different ways of handling it. He, of course is extremely charming, funny, generous and affectionate with most people. With me, he withheld affection and it was spiraling down with the verbal attacks increasing. I finally broke down, flipped out and left. I had really never addressed the drinking before because it was clear he felt judged if I did and told me to take it or leave it. Also, I have kids and he once alluded to knowing that he'd have to change to have me in his life with my kids (I really kept them away from him) but he never did anything about it...so, by the time I left, I was just a run down mess and I wish I had just drawn a line in the sound in an unemotional way but I was a wreck. We are now talking again, just friends. I did tell him everything I experienced with his drinking and it didn't go well. The next time I saw him, he was pouring his wine and proceeded to get drunk in front of me and told me, when I apologized for having been so emotional, that he didn't really take it personally. So, I see that I have no leverage here. We are not together anymore. I'm still reeling from the whole experience and he's got his wine and lots of friends to keep him company. Now that we are talking as friends, is there anything I can do? Am I complicit in being friends with him? I feel in one way, it's his life to do with as he chooses and he is extremely high functioning. All of his friends accept him as is and on a rare occasion if he blows up they just leave and don't speak of it. I really love this guy. Any thoughts? Thanks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-568654854152125392.post-55871797455973868192011-08-25T00:29:39.480-07:002011-08-25T00:29:39.480-07:00I agree, its a struggle. I've noticed I need t...I agree, its a struggle. I've noticed I need to be around people who do care, and will discourage my drinking (even call me out when I need called out most). This is usually family, and true friends. If I'm craving a beer (and the cravings are less frequent over time), I know I need to talk to someone who wants me to be sober and will help me get through these struggles. I've experienced all the negatives as well- failed jobs, legal troubles, school issues, relationship troubles, being a terrible person. And I still want to drink all the time because my mind chooses to remember the good times instead of the bad times created from alcohol- so, even though its mentally tough to do- each day i tell myself at least 1 good reason why i shouldn't drink and give a good example. Writing these out has helped me get through some difficult times. Good Luck!The Black Sheephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04411984219779701389noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-568654854152125392.post-22867464118662898042011-08-17T11:08:51.492-07:002011-08-17T11:08:51.492-07:00If you have ever stopped for any length of time yo...If you have ever stopped for any length of time you'll know that the cravings usually happen at certain times of the day. I found that the best thing was to engineer a situation where you are away from your haunts at those times. <br /><br />Go to the pub and drink a soft drink and then listen to how dull it is to spend time with drunk people and realise that those are your "friends" who you miss so much and the conversation and company you want, they won't want to be with you sober and you want to be with them drunk, are these really friends?<br /><br />The process of giving up is a process of realising that there is a whole world of people out there who never go to pubs or drink a bottle of wine everyday. As a member of the majority you start to find other friends and develop other routines, the idea that the people sitting outside bars are having fun is an illusion of the mind, Most people don't do this and the ones who do regularly are hungover the next morning and you know what fun that is.<br /><br />Most weekends my wife meets a drinking partner of hers and gets extremely drunk, I usually have to go and rescue her from a pub. It is like watching a film on a loop and very depressing to experience week in, week out. Our drinking culture is partly to blame. <br /><br />I wish you luck, it's not easy but sitting in a house bored will not work, you have to find other things to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-568654854152125392.post-78893020434272962792011-07-10T17:31:28.269-07:002011-07-10T17:31:28.269-07:00Best of luck mate.
Plenty online regarding foods t...Best of luck mate.<br />Plenty online regarding foods to boost serotonin levels. <br />My philosophy that I use with friend with OCD is DON'T LET DRUGS CARVE NEURAL PATHWAYS IN BRAIN ANYMORE BUT MAKE OWN PATHWAYS AU NATURALLY.<br /> Thank you for this blog, for your honesty, maleness, age? emotionalnesss good thing!<br />best wishesThe Bosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17464619220260039172noreply@blogger.com